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Never Underestimate the Power of a Housewife

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From where I come from, being a housewife may be low and degrading in the social ladder. After all, women are now perceived as a strong, independent and career-centered woman. Even my friends have their own careers and are already holding a valuable position in the company they are working for (not to mention the amount of money they are earning). So why would you want to stay at home all day with no career and money on your own? 

When I was younger, I always thought that my life will be about career and being on top. In fact, being a housewife never even crossed my mind! Fast forward today, my life is so much different from what I planned. Yes, I am a housewife, but that does not mean you have the right to degrade me or feel bad for me. 

Photo from JD Hancock, Flickr
Photo from JD Hancock, Flickr

Yes, I am a housewife. I wake up at 4:30 in the morning to cook breakfast for my family. After that, I clean the house to make sure that it is spic and span. I also do the dishes, take away the trash and fold clothes from the other day’s laundry. And if for some miracle, my kids are still asleep after I finish the chores, I do my freelance work. 

Yes, I am a housewife. I take care of my kids 24/7, no breaks, no time outs. I put their needs first, put them to sleep in the afternoon so I can either rest too or finish my freelance work, bathe them, feed them, play with them and fix whatever mess they created. 

Yes, I am a housewife. But I that does not mean I just rely on my husband all the time. I still look for ways to earn money for myself. I still like to share the things I learned and I constantly look for ways to learn more.

Yes, I am a housewife. I don’t hold a high-ranking position in a multi-national company but I am the boss in my own house. I don’t earn a significant amount of money from work but I earn the love and trust from my husband and kids. I don’t solve other people’s problems and give them the solutions they think they deserve but I make sure that I am able to attend to my family and be there for them when they need me the most.  

Yes, I am a housewife. I am the first one to witness every milestone in my kids’ lives – and no amount of money can repay that. From their first smile, first laugh, first steps, first words and even the “Mama” and “Dada,” I was there to see that. I was there to comfort my kids every time they cry. I was there and always the first one to give them a hug when they feel hurt. And I will never exchange those moments, both happy and stressful ones. 

So the next time you look down on someone who is a housewife, think again. Our job is not an easy one and raising kids and building a loving, caring and nurturing family home is not as easy as it seems.

And to all my fellow housewives, be proud of yourself. Your career is your kids and you have a full-time job, too. There is nothing to be ashamed of.  

Ayi

A former law student turned stay-at-home mom of two. Join me and read my adventures as I go through this crazy world called parenting and mommy-hood.

4 Comments

  1. dumplingsarecool

    I totally agree. I became a housewife after marrying a minister. Some people look at me as if I was dragged down the aisle without a say. I always tell them that it’s MY own choice; no one forced me into this.

    We have no kids yet (planning) and in a way this new lifestyle has helped me buckle down and finish my half-done stories and other writings. 🙂

    10 . May . 2014
    • momhandsarefull

      Hello dumplingsarecool 🙂

      I don’t really understand why some people look down on housewives. It’s a fulltime job, to be honest. We may not have the financial freedom unlike career women but is money the only measure to being successful?

      10 . May . 2014
  2. phenomenalhousewives

    I feel more accomplished managing my home than any job I have had!

    13 . May . 2014
  3. SimpLeigh Organized

    Well said! Although some people may look down on our “profession”, how we feel about it is what matters most. Keep on keeping on! 🙂

    18 . May . 2014

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