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In a Nutshell: Life Lessons 2014 has Taught Me

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Photo from Transformer18, Creative Commons, Flickr
Photo from Transformer18, Creative Commons, Flickr

I always believe that one’s experiences in life is the best teacher. Let’s face it. Some of the best things life can teach us is not taught inside the four corners of the classroom. Yes, even books are not enough to prepare us for what life and this sometimes harsh world has to offer.

I can’t say 2014 is the best year for me but it is definitely not the worst. 2014 has been both good and bad, boring and exciting, challenging but definitely something I’ll always remember. It opened a lot of doors for me, some I took the chance, some I have to let go – for now.

….. and this is what I learned.

1. Take risks.

I’m pretty sure I mentioned in some of my posts that I’m not a big risk taker. I settle for “pwede na” and don’t really want to go out of my comfort zone. Yes, I’m boring and a scaredy-cat.

But this year is different. I took some risks in terms of the online business, investing in stocks and yes, even in blogging. After more than a year, I decided to buy my own domain to give myself an identity in the World Wide Web – and I’m so glad I finally took the risk.

It took me a while to gather some guts to try out different things. What I learned is that if I didn’t take the risk, I wouldn’t gain something. And I wouldn’t have learned more.

Bottom line: take risks and don’t be afraid. Life is boring without it.

2. Grab opportunities.

Sometime in May, I got a call from Lazada Philippines about supplying for them. Of course, I was hesitant at first since this is something bigger than the online store. After weighing the pros and cons, my husband and I decided to give it a try. After all, it’s not everyday where we’ll be offered that kind of opportunity.

Of course, this doesn’t mean you just grab any chance you get. We all have to weigh the consequences and the possible benefits we can gain before we say “yes” to the opportunity/ies presented in front of us.

3. Be patient.

Patience is never my virtue. Seriously. Though I really try my best to be patient especially with my two rascals. For the previous years, I’ve been working on my patience meter and by 2014, I must say I improved a lot. I don’t even know where I get that truck-load of patience with my kids but I know that once both (yes, both) of them threw tantrums, I need to activate it.

And it’s not just with my kids.

Being an online seller and with the entrance of Lazada in the business, I can’t wait for the sales to go up. Of course, it doesn’t work that way. Everything has its own timing and it’s going to take a lot before we reap all our hard work. Patience, patience and patience is really a must in everything we do.

4. Don’t trust people too easily.

This has been a challenging year for me in terms of juggling kids, work and the entire household. I am used to having yayas around to help me manage some things in the house and I must admit, I trust them too easily. I was of the impression that giving them everything they need (they even have their own room with CR!), buying food for them and paying them well are enough. Well, apparently not.

I just learned that these people will never be contented. Despite treating them with respect and making them feel they are part of the family, there will always look for loopholes just so they’ll look kawawa. Since I became maid-less, I just realized that there are people you can’t trust easily. Some people are just there because they need something from you and once they get it, they’ll leave. Sadly, it’s the reality of life.

5. Never forget yourself.

When I became a mom, everything revolved around my kids. Despite having yayas, I rarely took the time off and will only do so when I’m in the mood. As a result, I looked more stressed out than ever. My mom even teased me, “Sige ka, baka palitan ka ng asawa mo pag hindi ka nag-ayos.”

So this year, I vowed to pay attention to myself more. My role as a mom is a tough and challenging one but I learned that it shouldn’t stop me from taking care of myself too.  I know my priorities and responsibilities but I made sure to devote at least two hours for myself. It just makes me feel better and more energized after.

To 2014, thank you so much. It’s been a great year. Sadly, I have to say good bye to you and welcome 2015 with open arms. Cheers!

Ayi

A former law student turned stay-at-home mom of two. Join me and read my adventures as I go through this crazy world called parenting and mommy-hood.

16 Comments

  1. Jem Alvarado (@esupermommy)

    Never forget yourself – That is what I always tell myself in times, I feel so tired and worn-out. 🙂

    05 . Jan . 2015
  2. Michelle Solee (@michisolee)

    I’m not a risk taker too more on sigurista. But it is true, sometimes we need to take risk and leave our comfort zone.

    05 . Jan . 2015
  3. Renz

    Never forget yourself… Oh so true!
    Great realizations you’ve got there 🙂

    05 . Jan . 2015
  4. Maan

    I can relate to most of these especially number 1 and number 4. My maid’s betrayal must be the highlight of my 2014, and now I know that people are not always what they seem. And never hesitate to buy a CCTV when your gut tells you so hahaha

    05 . Jan . 2015
    • Ayi

      We actually had CCTV installed ever since our two yayas left with my youngest daughter alone in the crib downstairs. Since then, nawalan na talaga ako ng tiwala sa kanila! Hehehehe

      06 . Jan . 2015
  5. nanaystrip

    You’re a hardworking mom. You really deserve a lot of “me-times” to relax. I hope all moms can squeeze in well-deserved me-times this 2015 to rest, relax, and reflect. Happy new year!

    06 . Jan . 2015
  6. Que Sullano - Gavan

    Agree on all! And, yes to me-times for us to recharge and be ready to face new challenges.

    06 . Jan . 2015
  7. Sol Razo

    Congratulations for a great realization and thank you for sharing. For all our sacrifices, we really deserve “me-time” and in time you will see that all your sacrifices as well will really worth it. I also prioritized my husband and kids by giving up my career before from the corporate world, now I can say it’s all worth it. May God continue to give you wisdom while you play your great role–being a mother and a wife!

    06 . Jan . 2015
  8. AciGirl MB

    super agree much sa take risks and grab opputunities, dati kasi mahiyain ako and wala pa lang magyayari if hiya hiya lang 🙂 aja!

    06 . Jan . 2015
  9. Jhoanna Tacorda

    Im not a risk taker as well and I my life revolves with my kid, thank you for this I learned a lot

    06 . Jan . 2015
  10. Aleigna Lin

    Take risks. Definitely. I have several regrets that stemmed from not taking risks, most of them happened in 2014. This 2015, I vow to take more risks and grab more opportunities, too. Great list, mommy!

    06 . Jan . 2015
  11. MrsMartinez

    The last one is so true. We should not be too complacent with our looks just because we are already married. We have to really love and take care of ourselves.

    xoxo
    MrsMartinez

    07 . Jan . 2015
    • Ayi

      Indeed mommy. Lalo pa ngayon. Men say that the reason why they cheat is because their wives forget to take care of themselves. It’s not enough justification of course, but as wives, let’s not allow that to happen too.

      07 . Jan . 2015
  12. Josephine

    All of us mommies definitely need our ME times! We all deserve it! 😀

    08 . Jan . 2015
  13. Louisa Mercado (@2livelovelaugh5)

    I’m not a big risk taker as well but I like to think that I can still achieve my goals and take the plunge when I can. Here’s to a prosperous 2015!

    11 . Jan . 2015
  14. Vix Parungao

    these are really valuable bits of advice + thank you for sharing them. i agree when you said that our life experiences are our best teacher + it really pays to take risks + get out of our comfort zone. here’s to putting these lessons to action this 2015!

    18 . Jan . 2015

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