Momma Tips: How to Choose Your Child’s Godparents

When I found out I was pregnant, I can’t help but think about this million-dollar question: who will be my child’s ninongs and ninangs?

The tradition of choosing godparents date back to the early days of Catholic Church in consonance with the sacrament of Baptism. Since then, godparents became crucial in helping parents raise a child according to a set of values, beliefs, and morals. 

Let’s face it. Choosing a godparent these days goes beyond religious beliefs. Most of the time, we choose a ninong and ninang based on relationships and sad to say, names and status. After all, we want our kids to get the best, right? It’s an unfortunate reality but we hope that ninong who lives a better life will shower our kids with expensive gifts. 

This leads us to the next question: How should we choose our child’s godparents?

I am not the most religious person you’ll meet, so here are questions I asked myself before choosing ninongs and ninangs: Choosing Godparents1. How is my relationship with the preferred godparent?

This is the first question I asked myself when making a list of potential ninongs and ninangs. I’m not really into names and labels, which is why my kids’ godparents are my close friends in high school and law school. 

In choosing godparents, it helps if you have a good relationship with the person. You might also choose someone you share the same values and beliefs, especially when it comes to raising kids. It doesn’t matter if you met her 10 years ago or last year. What matters most is the bond you have before you had a child, which you hope to pass as your child gets older. After all, it is easier to maintain and strengthen an existing bond than creating a new one just for the child’s sake. 

2. Will s/he be there for my child and make an effort to get to know him/her in the years to come? image (38)This is why question number one is crucial. How do you expect the godparents to make an effort and be present in a child’s life if you’re not even close to them? 

Therefore, choose a godparent who is willing to see you before and after you gave birth. Choose someone who makes an effort to see you and your child anytime and get to know her better. It is also advisable to choose someone within your proximity for convenience and accessibility reasons. You may have best friends from other provinces or living in another country, but it would be impossible to create a bond with just Christmas cards and gifts, don’t you think?  

3. Can the chosen godparent be generous not just in presents? 

Who doesn’t want a ninong who could give your child expensive gifts during Christmas? Don’t you want a popular ninang for your little one? 

Fine. We all anticipate that our chosen godparents will shower our kids with expensive gifts and a referral in the company 20 years from now. While names and labels look good on paper, let’s not make it a priority when choosing a godparent, especially if they are the type of people who don’t really make an effort. Go for someone who is generous not just in giving gift gifts but also in time and effort. 

4. What about their morals and values?

Think about this: do you want a ninong who invites your child to go to a “bar” once he reaches 13? Is it okay if your child’s ninang will teach your daughter how to drink alcohol since she’ll learn it anyway?

Surely, we have friends who drink, smoke, and struggled somewhere along the way. That doesn’t mean they are not good candidates. In choosing a godparent, make sure to go for someone who shares the same values and beliefs with you, especially in raising children. They should be someone who can teach your child to do things differently and learn from their mistakes. They may not be the saintly person in the world but your child’s godparents should reflect what you want to teach and tell your child especially in the growing up years despite the differences in personalities.  
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5. Can I easily talk to the chosen godparent anytime I want to? 

When I found out I was pregnant, I immediately reached out to my high school friends and told them the news. It was easy for them to feel genuinely happy and even visited me in the hospital when I gave birth. Since then, I decided that they will be my eldest daughter’s ninangs, which was a great choice. Up to this day, they constantly ask how she is and made an effort to see her. 

In choosing a godparent, make sure that s/he is someone you can easily talk to, reach out to, and see every time schedule permits. Keep in mind that you are the middleman between your child and your kumare, at least during the first few years when your child can’t handle her own social media account. Until your child is big enough, you need to constantly update ninongs and ninangs about how your child is doing. If you can schedule play dates, then why not, right? 

Anything to add, mommas? 

16 Comments

  1. Jackie Park

    December 7, 2015 at 11:05 am

    What a great post! To be honest I had a problem with this when choosing my panganay’s godfathers kasi I don’t have that many guy friends. So I decided to give that responsibility to my hubby. One thing I also want though is my kids to have a direct relationship with their ninangs and ninongs…kasi diba they’re their second parents? 🙂
    Thanks for sharing!

  2. Neri Ann

    December 7, 2015 at 2:09 pm

    So true! I have this argument with my partner where he gets ninongs/ninangs for our twins that I don’t even know! It should be the person that I can turn to or get some advice from if I am troubled with the twins or they should be close to my kids as well.

  3. mommycharm

    December 7, 2015 at 3:08 pm

    I actually have failed a bit in choosing my son’s godfather since most of them are from the metro. When we moved to the province (not so far from Manila actually) we rarely see most of his ninongs and ninangs. Good thing though, two of his ninongs and ninangs are my relatives so yeah, he still has someone to visit come Christmas and ask for gifts! haha =D

  4. Melisa Sanchezs

    December 8, 2015 at 5:33 am

    I love this, and when my Zd’s dedication day first I answer this following questions that come into mind. What is the purpose why my child need a godparents/ and what are their duty and rules as a godparents to him? and I agree with you sis for this.

  5. katjrod

    December 8, 2015 at 11:05 am

    Great post. I honestly didn’t think about any of these things, haha. I just said to myself that I’m getting my closest friends from HS and college for my first born, then my closest friends from work for my next, haha.

  6. Jhanis

    December 8, 2015 at 2:48 pm

    I have some of my best friends since forever as my kids’ godparents. We really thought about who to ask because these will be the people that will help look after the child should something happend to the parents. God forbid of course. 🙂

  7. Maan Laxa

    December 8, 2015 at 10:18 pm

    I admit that I’d been rash in choosing my ninongs ang ninangs. However, most of them naman are reliable and there for Yuri.

  8. mhaan.a-ds

    December 9, 2015 at 1:50 pm

    My highschool barkada and my few close friends served as my little one’s godparents. Para madaling singilin kapag christmas and birthday lols

  9. mrsbry126

    December 10, 2015 at 4:46 am

    I agree with all your points. Sadly, both my kids “lost” godparents already because we’re not friends with them anymore.

  10. mamaspeaksagain

    December 10, 2015 at 2:55 pm

    Getting god parents is a daunting task! We got ninongs and ninangs who are part of my immediate family that way I am sure they will always be around no matter what.

  11. Viva Kitchen Goddess

    December 12, 2015 at 3:47 am

    Both my daughter’s ninongs and ninangs are close to us and we chose them because we want them to mentor our daughter since they are adept in their chosen professions (among others). One ninang is a writer (my daughter writes for a major publication) and super kikay (she teaches my daughter how to be kikay.. hahaha B.I. ninang), the other ninang is anime-crazed like my daughter (they both speak nihonggo behind my back!), another ninang is a business whiz and a badminton buff (my daughter loves badminton). As for the ninongs, one teaches my daughter how to play the bass and drums (oh no! rock music), another one is a graphic artist (he teaches her photoshop, illustrator, etc), and another one is a constant movie buddy. Luckily, all of her Godparents are in the Metro so she gets to see them often. 🙂

  12. Peachy @ The Peach Kitchen

    December 18, 2015 at 8:40 pm

    My daughter’s godparents were people close to us and those that we really trust.

  13. mumwrites (@vixquips)

    December 20, 2015 at 1:51 pm

    it really is quite tricky to choose our children’s godparents. my little man’s godparents are my College and high school friends.

  14. Mommy Anna

    December 22, 2015 at 6:20 am

    My child godparents are those people who are very close to my heart and who really I can trust.

  15. Charley's Mommy

    December 23, 2015 at 1:40 pm

    All of Baby Charley’s ninongs and ninangs are very dear to my roommate (my husband, btw) and me. Thanks for sharing, Mommy. 🙂

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