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That Day My Daughter Taught Me To Be Contented

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I always thought we can only learn from persons in authority and those who are older than us. That was before I became a mom. After giving birth to two wonderful girls, life as a mother constantly taught me so many things. The surprising part is I always learn from my kids. 

We were in H&M one weekend and I saw this cute pair of blue Mary Jane shoes. I was thinking of buying it since it was on sale, but first, I asked my eldest daughter’s opinion if she wanted it. After all, I want to give her the freedom to choose and allow her to make her own choices even at a young age. 

Our conversation went like this: 

Me: Look. This is nice (referring to the shoes). You like it?
A: No mommy. It’s okay. I have shoes already.
Me: Are you sure? I’ll buy it for you. 
A: No mommy. I still have shoes at home.

This struck me. She specifically told me she doesn’t need new shoes because she still have pairs at home. My daughter is only four and yet, she gave me a reminder that we could all learn from: 

Be contented. 

Oftentimes, we focus on the things we don’t have and strive harder just to get them. We felt jealous when we see some friends flying out of the country and felt bad because we can’t experience it. We wish we have this and that, make a list of the things we don’t own, and seldom appreciate the things we have. We are quick to pinpoint our limitations and failed to realize our strengths.

And yet, here comes a little girl who I promised to give everything and yet, chose to say no because she doesn’t need it anyway, at least when it comes to the material aspect. She’s happy with what she have, even if it means owning less. Sure, it is a simple conversation and perhaps, she doesn’t know nor realize what she was talking about, but it made me proud because she was able to distinguish want from need. image (29)This is something we all can ponder on. Mind you, this is not the first time it happened. When she did something exceptional like in school or at home, I tell her there’s a reward waiting for her. Her usual reply is, “No mommy. It’s okay. And I always respect her decision. 

Let this be a reminder to all of us. Be contented. Let us be good examples to our kids and teach them that material things won’t last for long. After all, success and happiness are not always defined by how many things we own. Sure, a new pair of shoes will make us happy, but at the end of the day, material things don’t matter. There are more things we could focus on than eyeing for that expensive bag.  

Then again, I’ve been schooled by my daughter. 

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Ayi

A former law student turned stay-at-home mom of two. Join me and read my adventures as I go through this crazy world called parenting and mommy-hood.

12 Comments

  1. msbolin

    So love your post. And I really salute your daughter for her practicality and showing great EQ. I started my blog years ago because of one reason — I’ve realized that my boys are teaching me more lessons in life than me doing it to them. Hurray to our children. They are truly God’s gift.

    04 . Apr . 2016
    • Ayi

      Diba. Who would’ve thought that our kids could teach us so much ๐Ÿ™‚

      04 . Apr . 2016
  2. Melisa Sanchez

    Aw, so cute ng kid mu mommy, Nakakatuwa, yeah I agree marami din tayong natutunan from our kids.

    08 . Apr . 2016
  3. Michelle Solee (@michisolee)

    My son is also like your daughter, whenever I ask him “Do you like this or that”, he always say no or I don’t need that. #tipid

    08 . Apr . 2016
  4. ceemee

    I agree with you that we could learn a lot from our kids. I wrote a post before about my daughter being generous, even if the person was not super nice to her.

    09 . Apr . 2016
  5. xotheurbancat

    That’s good, even at a young age, kids should know how to be contented. I sometimes also learn something from my kid. Nakakaaliw lang ๐Ÿ˜Š

    13 . Apr . 2016
  6. Louisa Mercado

    I’ve had a similar moment. ๐Ÿ™‚ And when my son is asked if he wants something usually he’ll just ask for something so basic that it makes me happy that he doesn’t feel the need to ask for expensive stuff.

    13 . Apr . 2016
  7. MommyPehpot

    oh this is so nice!

    our kids can really teach in so many ways di ba.. their views in life is very simple ๐Ÿ™‚

    13 . Apr . 2016
    • Ayi

      I agree ๐Ÿ™‚

      14 . Apr . 2016
  8. Mommy Levy

    what a nice kid, you’re raising her well.

    14 . Apr . 2016
    • Ayi

      Thank you ๐Ÿ™‚

      14 . Apr . 2016
  9. Rowena Wendy Lei ๆž—้œฒ่–‡ (@animetric)

    My daughter is like that too ๐Ÿ™‚

    14 . Apr . 2016

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